Cathy's Reality Check/ Counting My Blessings

I really can't believe it's that time of year again.  Truly...didn't summer just start?  I'm writing this blog not as your doula, or business acquintance, but as a busy Mom.  I had such great aspirations for this summer.  Tons of reading, family time, and relaxation. I was going to step back a bit from the business world and enjoy my last summer, not being a student.  Babies have another plan.  We had tremendous business growth this summer. (Yay!!)  I also had tons of playtime with my kiddos. We enjoyed crafting, forts, swimming pools, and potty trained my youngest.  Pretty fantastic summer if you ask me!

I took a lot of time to relect on what I want to accomplish this year.  I am both nervous and excited about my kids starting school, and daycare for the first time. A part of me is jumping up and down that they will be back in school.  The other part wants to squeeze them to my side, and never let them leave.  This year I will be starting my midwifery program, juggling after school activities,running our business, and of course my household.

I am a type A personality.  I want everything to run smoothly and stay organized.  I want homecooked meals, a clean house, our business to grow, and straight A's.  I know this will not happen.  But a girl can hope. ;-)

We as women and moms, continually fill up our plates.  We want to succeed at everything.  I am afraid of overloading my proverbial plate and failing from the weight of all I have taken on.  Does anyone else feel like this or is it just me?!

In order to combat this, I am stating the allowances I will make myself.

1. I will try to continue to put God first.  This means church once a week, daily devotions and prayers and  leading a table of fine women at my local MOPS.  It's amazing how spiritually refreshed I feel when I take time to serve and learn about God.

2. I will spend quality time with my kids, even if I can no longer spend the quantity of time I want. This will include reading, crafts, and my least favorite...playing pretend.  When taking quality time with my kiddos, I will not check my phone (although if I'm on call, I'll still answer).  I will give them my undivided attention and not think about all the tasks I need to accomplish for the day.

3. Homecooked meals may have to include: sandwiches, cereal, and gasp...the occasional fast food banquet. I love cooking.  It pleases me to no end to give my family nourishing food that is free of processing.  Cooking is an outlet for me and about as creative as I get. Maybe I can spruce up chicken nuggets. ha ha ( I'm really not a crafty person.)

4. The house will no longer be able to be as clean as I want it to be.  Who am I kidding; it's never as clean as I want it to be.  I have 3 kids, 2 cats, 1 Labrador retriever, 2 goldfish, 6 chickens, and 1 chameleon.  This maybe harder for me to let go than anything else.  Lord, bring me peace on this.

4. While straight A's may not be achievable, I will strive to do the best I can do.  More importantly than straight A's, I really want to enjoy my studies.  On the days my kids are in daycare or in bed, I want to revel in my textbooks, write papers without focusing on how fast I can get it done. MCU is going to be amazing!

5. Lastly but just as importantly,  I will not forget about my husband.  He is my greatest cheerleader.  Being a Mom, student, business woman takes a great deal of time.  But none of those will be achievable if I don't take time to be a partner/wife to my beloved. Sometimes it's hard to change back into that role.  At the end of the day, and in a few years when my kids are living their own life.  It goes back to Kiel and I.  Taking the time to nurture our relationship is beyond priceless.

So this blog isn't about business at all.  It doesn't mean I'm not focused on business or that our clients arent' important to us. I wanted all you fabulous, lovely ladies to know a bit more about me.  I am a mom. I am a wife.  I am a doula.  I will be a student again.  I am going to nail this.  Even if it's not perfect, I will do it to the best of my ability.  I am blessed.

Peace,

Cathy

Are your children safe in the car? It depends...

It depends on a number of things....

Today I sat down with my friend Danielle Meintanis from Mighty Mama Birth Services to discuss carseat safety.  Like myself, Danielle has been a car seat safety advocate since her oldest child was a baby, but this past summer she decided to become a Certified Child Passenger Safety Technician.  I thought it would be great to hear from a professional, so I asked her some questions.

Q: Why did you decide to become a Child Passenger Safety Tech.?

A: I saw a lot of mistakes that parents or caregivers were making and I didn't want to offer advice without being professionally trained to help them.

Q: Although I'm a car seat safety advocate, I'm not professionally trained and I'm aware that I could be missing something important.  During your training, what did you learn that you didn't know before your training?

A:  We were told at the beginning of the class that everyone will go home and redo our car seats and that was true.  Everyone learned something new.

Q:  When you're doing car seat safety checks, what all is entailed in this process?  Do you teach the parents how to install and safely buckle their children into their seats?

The first thing we do is take all the car seats and boosters out of the car to check for recalls, damage, etc.

Then we make sure the child fits in the seat correctly and the straps are where they should be.

Next, we figure out where the best place is for each seat and make sure that the seats can be installed correctly into the vehicle.

Lastly, we uninstall the car seats and have the parents install them, then we check to make sure that they've got the seats installed correctly.

Q: What are the top most common mistakes that you see parents/caregivers making in regards to car seat safety?

A: 1. Using the LATCH & seat belt together.

-Many people feel that if they're safe on their own, it must be better when using both together, but this method can actually put too much strain on the car seat.

2. The straps are too loose.

-Many people think that if children are buckled, they will be safe, but if the straps are too loose on your child, it can be very dangerous in the event of a car accident, which brings us to our next point.

3. Wearing coats in car seats.

-Coats in car seats are a bad idea because they add bulk to your child, which means you have to loosen the straps.  In the event of a crash, the coat will compress and your child could be ejected from the car seat.

4. The chest clip in the wrong place.

-Often times, people will buckle the chest clip but won't make sure that the chest clip is on the child's chest.  It's often left too low (on the child's stomach) or too high up (near their throat).  The chest clip should actually be aligned with the child's armpit, right across their chest.

5. After market products in car seats.

-People believe that just because it's sold in stores, it's safe to use.  The truth is that many individual items that you buy to add to the car seat are not approved to safely use by the car seats manufacturer.  Please call your car seats manufacturer before using anything in the car seat that did not come with that seat.  Even if the item is mad by the same company, it may not be approved for the carseat model that you have.

6. Car seat location.

- Everyone hears that the middle seat is the safest, however, that's not always the case.  It depends on the seat, the vehicle and the child.  If you are using a middle seat and want to use the latch system, but the tethers are for the two side seats, it might be best to use the seat belt or move the car seat to another location in order to use the latch system safely.  

The best thing to do is bring your vehicle, car seats & children to a professional to ensure that your family is as safe as possible.  You can schedule an appointment with Danielle by visiting www.mightymamabirthservices.com or find a place near you to set up an appointment by going to safekids.org  If you would like your car seats checked out this weekend, there is a car seat safety check coming up on November 14th 10a.-1p. Target Garage 1101 W. Jackson Blvd. Chicago, IL.