Amazing Things!!!

I'm so excited to be in the line of work that I'm in!  Being a birth and postpartum doula is an amazing job.  I may be biased, but I think we get the best clients EVER!  As Cathy begins midwifery school this fall, I'll be taking classes at my junior college to get the credits that I need to add IBCLC to the end of my name.  All the while, our main focus is to provide the best support possible to our pregnant, birthing, and postpartum clients.  As a CLS, who is not working under an IBCLC or in a hospital setting, my assistance to our breastfeeding clients can only go so far.  So, it only makes sense for me to continue my education to better serve our amazing clients!

In other news, 2 weekends ago I spent 3 days in beautiful Kearney, MO., with some of the most amazing women (and a few men) that I had ever met.  I'll spare you all the details here, but you can read about my experience on my personal blog, here: Andrea's Short Stories 

Being a birth & bereavement doula, I get tagged in Facebook posts semi-regularly, about a mom in the area, looking for support after suffering a loss.  I have several friends who have had losses, and I myself lost my very first baby, almost 14 years ago. It's something that happens all too often, more often than people think, because we don't talk about it.  But we don't forget, and it never goes away.  I feel this strong calling to start a loss support group that's not in a hospital setting.  A safe place for mothers and fathers to come to, to grieve, to share, to hope.  I truly hope to get a group up and running within the next few months.

Cathy also was able to spend a weekend recently, with some amazing midwives, learning all about midwifery type things. ;)  You'll have to ask her about.  I have no clue.  All I know is that she loved it.

Now, for the event of the year.....
Cathy and I are working hard to create a fundraiser event that is BIGGER AND BETTER than last year!  Last year we hosted a vendor fair and the proceeds were donated to Groudwork Domestic Violence Program.  We raised almost $800.  It was a ton of fun.  We had face painting and a bouncy house for the kids!  We had shopping!  We had food!  We had guest speakers!  However, we didn't get a ton of traffic.

How awesome would it be if we could double... or maybe even triple the amount that we raised last year!  Think about it.  This program is providing shelter to women escaping abusive relationships.  It's providing counseling, advocacy, legal resources, even basic necessities like food and toiletries. How amazing would it be to be a part of changing helping victims of domestic violence to become survivors!  But we can't do it on our own.  We need help.  We need vendors!  We need attendants!  We need volunteers!  We would like our vendor event to be focused on parenting resources this year, but we're having trouble finding vendors to fulfill those rolls.  We're thinking car seat safety techs, swim safety, speech therapy, family counseling, children's clubs, children's toys or clothing, and the likes.  We would love to hear any ideas!  For further info please email me at myers.andrea79@yahoo.com  Thanks for your help!

Warmly,
Andrea

Are your children safe in the car? It depends...

It depends on a number of things....

Today I sat down with my friend Danielle Meintanis from Mighty Mama Birth Services to discuss carseat safety.  Like myself, Danielle has been a car seat safety advocate since her oldest child was a baby, but this past summer she decided to become a Certified Child Passenger Safety Technician.  I thought it would be great to hear from a professional, so I asked her some questions.

Q: Why did you decide to become a Child Passenger Safety Tech.?

A: I saw a lot of mistakes that parents or caregivers were making and I didn't want to offer advice without being professionally trained to help them.

Q: Although I'm a car seat safety advocate, I'm not professionally trained and I'm aware that I could be missing something important.  During your training, what did you learn that you didn't know before your training?

A:  We were told at the beginning of the class that everyone will go home and redo our car seats and that was true.  Everyone learned something new.

Q:  When you're doing car seat safety checks, what all is entailed in this process?  Do you teach the parents how to install and safely buckle their children into their seats?

The first thing we do is take all the car seats and boosters out of the car to check for recalls, damage, etc.

Then we make sure the child fits in the seat correctly and the straps are where they should be.

Next, we figure out where the best place is for each seat and make sure that the seats can be installed correctly into the vehicle.

Lastly, we uninstall the car seats and have the parents install them, then we check to make sure that they've got the seats installed correctly.

Q: What are the top most common mistakes that you see parents/caregivers making in regards to car seat safety?

A: 1. Using the LATCH & seat belt together.

-Many people feel that if they're safe on their own, it must be better when using both together, but this method can actually put too much strain on the car seat.

2. The straps are too loose.

-Many people think that if children are buckled, they will be safe, but if the straps are too loose on your child, it can be very dangerous in the event of a car accident, which brings us to our next point.

3. Wearing coats in car seats.

-Coats in car seats are a bad idea because they add bulk to your child, which means you have to loosen the straps.  In the event of a crash, the coat will compress and your child could be ejected from the car seat.

4. The chest clip in the wrong place.

-Often times, people will buckle the chest clip but won't make sure that the chest clip is on the child's chest.  It's often left too low (on the child's stomach) or too high up (near their throat).  The chest clip should actually be aligned with the child's armpit, right across their chest.

5. After market products in car seats.

-People believe that just because it's sold in stores, it's safe to use.  The truth is that many individual items that you buy to add to the car seat are not approved to safely use by the car seats manufacturer.  Please call your car seats manufacturer before using anything in the car seat that did not come with that seat.  Even if the item is mad by the same company, it may not be approved for the carseat model that you have.

6. Car seat location.

- Everyone hears that the middle seat is the safest, however, that's not always the case.  It depends on the seat, the vehicle and the child.  If you are using a middle seat and want to use the latch system, but the tethers are for the two side seats, it might be best to use the seat belt or move the car seat to another location in order to use the latch system safely.  

The best thing to do is bring your vehicle, car seats & children to a professional to ensure that your family is as safe as possible.  You can schedule an appointment with Danielle by visiting www.mightymamabirthservices.com or find a place near you to set up an appointment by going to safekids.org  If you would like your car seats checked out this weekend, there is a car seat safety check coming up on November 14th 10a.-1p. Target Garage 1101 W. Jackson Blvd. Chicago, IL.

A First of Many!!!

Last Saturday, October 17th 2015, something amazing happened at New Life Church in New Lenox, IL.  

Something that Cathy & I had been working tirelessly to organize and promote for the past 6 months.  Last Saturday, our very first fundraiser took place!  The fundraiser was for our local domestic violence program called Groundwork!

Even though we raised a decent amount  of money ($656.55 after expenses), so much more was raised besides funds that day!

You see, my mom was a victim of domestic violence...

my dad was her abuser...

and myself and my siblings were raised in a violent upbringing.

Last Saturday, we got to raise awareness and raise our voices.  

We know that silence hides violence, so we stood together and spoke out against domestic violence!

Our speakers consisted of myself, my brother Jake, the Groundwork Program Director Amirrah, Groundwork client Sarah and my friend Angelica.  We each had different stories to tell...

...I was able to tell the story of my traumatic birth, which my mom and I both nearly lost our lives, as a result of that day....

...My brother Jake talked about what it was like for him as a little boy, growing up seeing our dad beat our mom... and fearing for our lives.  He spoke about the struggles that he still faces today... and the importance of good male role models in our children's lives...

...Amirrah shared with us the importance of the Groundwork program in our community and her hopes that one day there won't be a need for such a program...

Sarah spoke about her experience with a boyfriend (who hit her for the first time by back handing her as he drove them someplace)... she said she was so stunned that she apologized to him and kept telling herself that they would be okay... however, the abuse continued and escalated for years before she finally left him for good.... and it seems like a miracle to me that she survived the things that he put her through...

... Angelica talked about a relationship that she got into when she was 15 or 16.  Her boyfriend was mean and controlling... but had never hit her... until he did.  Only, the first time that he hit her wasn't just a slap (whatever that means)... He brutally beat her... to the point where she was covered in blood and had to be hospitalized at 16 years old....

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE knows no class, race, age, etc.  

It can happen and it does happen everyday.

I felt so honored to have been in the presence of so many survivors of domestic violence..

knowing that there were so many more who haven't survived.

Aside from speakers, we made sure to have something to entertain the whole family!  It was a vendor fair, so we had shopping!  

We also had raffle prizes, a jumpy house for the kids, face painting & delicious brunch catered by my sister Jen.  

Everyone had a great time!  

Cathy & I can't wait to do it again (BIGGER & BETTER) next year!

Lots of Love,

Andrea

Celebrating 1 Year With A Bang! Giving Back To Our Community!

This month marks 1 year since Cathy & I became business partners!  To celebrate, we wanted to do something to give back to our community. We began brainstorming a few months ago... maybe we'd host a diaper drive, or a March of Dimes walk, or some type of 5k.  We wanted to do something that related to moms & babies.  

After a lot of planning, I'm so excited to announce that we will be having a vendor fair next month to benefit Groundwork Domestic Violence Program! October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, so we decided what better time to host such a special event?  Some people may wonder, what does domestic violence have to do with moms & babies?  The answer: domestic violence affects many, many mothers and therefore their babies & children.  Here are some statistics on who domestic violence hurts & how.

1. Facts About Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

• Affects approximately 1.5 million women each year
• Affects as many as 324,000 pregnant women each year
• May be more common than conditions for which pregnant women are routinely screened
• Possibly associated with unintended pregnancy, delayed prenatal care, smoking, alcohol and drug abuse

2.The effects of domestic violence on pregnancy

Abuse is harmful not only to the woman being abused, but also to her baby, particularly if she takes blows to the abdomen. Such attacks can cause fetal fractures and cause injuries to or ruptures of the pregnant woman's uterus, liver, or spleen.

Studies have shown that during pregnancy, an abuser's attacks will generally focus on the breasts, abdomen, and genitals, resulting in serious consequences on the mother, fetus, and newborn and giving rise to maternal mortality and morbidity. It's linked to an increased risk of miscarriage, low birth weight, fetal injury, and fetal death.

Other complications may include:

• uterine prolapse
• antepartum hemorrhage
• premature rupture of membranes
• premature labor
• abruptio placenta
• vaginal infection from forced or unprotected sex with someone who has an infection
• increased first and second trimester bleeding
• headache
• irritable bowel syndrome
• chronic pelvic pain
• increased risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or HIV/AIDS

3. Domestic Violence in America: General Statistics and Facts

• Women ages 18 to 34 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
• More than 4 million women experience physical assault and rape by their partners.
• 1 in 3 female homicide victims are murdered by their current or former partner every year.

What are the Effects of Domestic Violence on Children?

• More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.
• Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
• Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
• Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.

What are the Effects of Domestic Violence on Mental Health?

• Domestic violence victims face high rates of depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, flashbacks, and other emotional distress.
• Domestic violence contributes to poor health for many survivors including chronic conditions such as heart disease or gastrointestinal disorders.
• Most women brought to emergency rooms due to domestic violence were socially isolated and had few social and financial resources.

What Happens if Domestic Violence Victims Do Not Receive Help?

• Without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse as teens and adults.
• Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.

#1 FACT: Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.

Help change the facts. Speak up, speak out, and make a difference for victims of domestic violence.

Groundwork Domestic Violence Program is a wonderful resource for local families.  I'm so happy that we're able to give back to them.  If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, get help by reaching out at: 

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 

24-HOUR HOTLINE: 

(815) 729-1228

To get involved in this fundraiser event, contact me at myers.andrea79@yahoo.com!

Read my birth story at http://andreasshortstories.weebly.com

Love & Light,

Andrea

1. http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/violence/intimatepartnerviolence/sld001.htm#2

2. http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/dv/pregnancy.php

3. http://www.safehorizon.org/page/domestic-violence-statistics--facts-52.html